Dear Di: Fuck the patriarchy

My boyfriend and I have tried watching porn together for the last few months, but everything seems sexist. I try to get into it, but every time I just keep thinking about racial and social inequalities, and were the actors paid enough, and was anyone exploited and, well, you get the point.

Dear Di: Raunch Rookie

Check in with them when you’re getting hot and heavy, ask them what they like, and don’t worry if there are a few awkward moments.