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WHETHER IT’S A common occurrence or a special occasion, an orgy is an event not to be missed. Categorized as sex between a group of four or more people, these “play parties” are a wonderful way to spend time with friends while enjoying some sensual fun. Never attended an orgy or are unsure of the rules of etiquette while participating? Forget your fears, because the Fulcrum has created this guide to teach you how to plan and attend an orgy with class.

Host with the most: How to organize your own orgy

As in any hosting situation, the setting must be just right in order to make your orgy guests feel comfortable in your home. At an event of this nature, ensuring your guests are at ease is especially important, since they will not be exchanging witty banter as much as they’re exchanging bodily fluids.
Pick one “romp” room—the room in your home where all the guests will come together. The cleanliness of the room may seem irrelevant, but consider: When was the last time you felt like getting down and dirty in actual dirt? Make sure you’ve cleaned every surface strong enough to support the weight of several bodies.

Accentuate the look and feel of the room with pillows and blankets in darker colours—not only will the space look put-together and inviting, but your guests will be able to get comfortable if they end up frolicking on the floor.

Safety is the responsibility of all orgy-goers; however, it is particularly important the host does his or her job to ensure the guests are practising safe sex. Keep plenty of condoms on hand, including flavoured condoms for oral sex. Filling decorative bowls with an assortment of rubbers makes for a nice touch!
If you are supplying any toys or lube, make sure they are in plain sight and easily accessible. Toys should also come equipped with fresh batteries and should be thoroughly washed before and after usage.

This goes without saying, but check with all party guests before taping your activities.

Guests’ best sex: Attending an orgy

Being a guest at an orgy employs an entirely different set of rules. After you’ve received your invitation, return your response as soon as possible. Show up no later than 15 minutes after the time dictated—you don’t want to miss the foreplay.

Upon reaching the home where the orgy will take place, try letting yourself in before knocking or ringing the doorbell. While this might be considered bad manners elsewhere, be considerate of your host—he or she might be in the midst of throes of passion.

Some hosts prefer their guests dive right into the action, while others plan activities to get their friends in the mood. Expect to participate in drinking games, dancing, and pornographic-movie watching prior to commencing the orgy itself.

Looking good is an integral part of attending an orgy. A dress code might appear a trivial matter at a party where very little will be worn, but dressing to impress can do no harm. Wear your best skivvies, and groom yourself well. Take a shower beforehand, and ensure all crevasses and holes are easily accessible by trimming unruly hair.

At any event, bringing an uninvited guest is considered bad manners, so if you wish to bring a plus-one, ask your host first. Be warned; some people prefer to put out with their pals, so don’t take it too personally if an extra invitation isn’t extended. If you do bring a date, be sure not to focus all your attention on them—it’s a party, after all.

Socialize!

This rule also applies for your actions toward other party guests—a good orgy-goer does not hog the best-looking person in the room. There will most likely be someone at the get-together to whom you’re not attracted. Remember any person invited to the party is wanted by someone, and it’s all right to politely decline advances if you’re uncomfortable. Try your best to be open-minded—you might find yourself enjoying activities with a playmate you initially found unattractive.

If you’re feeling left out or the need to approach someone, a good rule of thumb is to find a genital and attach yourself accordingly.
If you’re too uncomfortable to interact with anyone, chalk it up to experience and go home. You’ll be doing yourself—and everyone else—a favour.

Unfortunately, etiquette rules can only get you so far. So be bold, open to new experiences, and above all, just have fun. Enjoy the intercourse!

—Charlotte Bailey