HO HO HO… JUST WHAT IS MY BOYFRIEND DOING EVERY YEAR?
Dear Di,
First off, OMG, big fan of yours! Anyways, I’ve got a bit of a problem… I think my boyfriend might be seeing another, well, Mrs. Claus if you know what I mean? We’ve been going out for a few years now and every holiday season he gets distant and busy, like he’s preoccupied with something — is gift shopping for the holiday season that stressful? It gets even worse on Christmas Eve, where he’ll just disappear for the whole day! I haven’t spent a Christmas with him since we got together.
Please help,
Frosty the Girlfriend
I hear you Frosty — things can get chilly in a relationship when there’s only one under the mistletoe.. These things come down to showing up, being involved, and saying sorry for little bumps in the road. Problems like these tend to snowball if they aren’t addressed quickly. Resentment and frustration sure can sour the Christmas mood. Plus, doesn’t everyone wish their special someone would be home for the holidays, even if only in a dream?
What I suggest is to have a quick chat with him, tell him that you don’t think he’s found his place on the nice list this year and why. A lot of problems can be solved by making them clearer than ice. The distance around the holidays is a bit concerning, so telling him you miss him and wanna do stuff together might help. I don’t think we’ve quite reached “red-nose reindeer” red flags here just yet.
On the other hand, if you think little old Saint Nick here is going out and down some other chimney, then you’ll wanna catch him and end it fast. I think one way to catch him sneaking in and out is to put out some milk and cookies – home baked, the good stuff. He won’t be able to resist, and then you’ll have proof he snuck out! Your time is too valuable to be catching him buying Tiffany for another gal.
Remember, this is the most wonderful time of year if things don’t work out, you find another person with elf-like features to hunker the winter down with.
