My roommate’s best friend often comes out with us when we go out downtown, and unfortunately, every time this girl has come over we all want to gag at her body odour. Apparently someone let her in on her smell, or she realized her self-stench, and she went to the doctor a week ago. The diagnosis? Boob yeast. I don’t want to ask her about it, I don’t want to look it up online, and I definitely don’t want it myself. Di, can you shed a little light on this eau de boob?
—Say No to B.O.
Intertrigo, or breast yeast, as you so delicately learned, is a yeast infection that comes from folds of skin rubbing against each other. In your friend’s case, that means the skin under her breasts. This unpleasant condition is most common in gals who are well-endowed up top, but it’s a reminder for us all to give our lady lumps the breathing space they deserve by keeping them dry and cool as much as possible.
Breast yeast usually results in redness, swelling, and itchiness, and although it may also be contributing to the cause of the smell you be sniffin’, breast yeast usually doesn’t cause serious body odour. Perhaps your roommate’s friend has a few other hygiene issues to consider beyond her breasts.
Thankfully now that your friend has gone to the doc, she should be on the road to recovery. Funnily enough, the most common treatment is the same medication that is used for male jock itch.
Now, a few hints for you: Make sure your own tatas are nice and dry before you dress them, aim for bras that have breathable fabric whenever possible, and always remember to shower after you get sweaty. Stay fresh!
I don’t think you’ve ever addressed this question before in your column and I hope it isn’t too kinky. My partner loves being anally stimulated and I would like to learn how to give him a prostate massage. I think it would be an amazing addition to our sex life. I just want to make sure I know the proper technique so I hit the right spot.
In all my years of sexpertise, I’ve never had a question too kinky! Although anal play does sometimes get a kinky rap, it’s a sexual practice that any and all can enjoy. Kudos for doing your research: As you seem to be aware, the point of most penetrative pleasure for men is indeed the prostate, which is a gland located inside the anal canal. Despite its sensual nerve endings, the main function of the prostate is to help with reproduction, secreting a fluid that helps sperm move and live longer once they are ejaculated from the tip of the penis.
It’s a good idea to ensure your partner is relaxed and comfortable before you start stoking his fires. A great way to do this is to take a warm bath together or begin with a sensual body massage. If you’re concerned about safety, which is always a good idea, remember that you can wear thin gloves with lubricant to minimize the chances of STIs or infections and still provide a good backside rub. Make sure your nails are nice and smooth and that you have massage oil or lubricant close by.
You can start with a little external stimulation, using your fingertips to gently caress, stroke, or rub your partner’s perineum—this is the area of skin under his testicles towards his anus. This is an especially erogenous area—some men can orgasm through prostate stimulation alone—and the sensations here will add to his arousal, especially if you use your other hand to provide more pleasure to other areas of his body. Your partner should communicate what feels good, and when you’re ready for entry, you can insert one or several fingers into his anus. This part takes a little experimentation to find optimal positioning for the best penetration sensation. Move your fingers in an upward motion towards the front of his body, and gently probe for a small round knob of tissue—this is the jackpot! Here, move your fingers in a “come hither” motion and use the pads of your fingers to massage the prostate, keeping clear lines of communication with your partner for speed, pressure, and other stimulation. He should be ready for take-off in no time!
My last point of advice: don’t be too anal about perfecting your prostate probing. Practice makes perfect, and I hope this advice for a rectal rub hits the spot!