Dear Di,
Over Halloween my girlfriend dressed up as a dominatrix. But that wasn’t the kinky part. When we fell asleep I kept dreaming of having sex with the leather boots she was wearing. It got so bad that when I woke up I found myself caressing the boots and smelling the soft leather. I was even sporting an erection while I was doing this, and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about them since. Is there something wrong with me?
-Shoe game
Dear SG,
There is nothing wrong with you! Throughout history people have been known to be sexually aroused by a number of different inanimate objects, including firearms, trees, and large buildings—shoe fetishes are actually quite common within this umbrella of sexual attraction. It only becomes a problem if it starts impacting your normal every day routine, otherwise it’s a perfectly healthy expression of sexual play.
Shoe fetishism, also known as retifism, is the attribution of sexual qualities to shoes. This fetish is not always sexual in nature, and it may take the form of simple enamoured aesthetic appreciation.
On the other hand, many people incorporate footwear into mainstream sexual play, mostly by having their partners wear heels or boots during intercourse, which can be a simple and easy way to spice things up in the bedroom!
But some people take their fetish to the next level by physically having sex with shoes without the involvement of a flesh and blood partner, which is fine. As long as this practice isn’t negatively impacting your finances (as you purchase more and more shoes to masturbate into), causing you significant distress, or affecting your performance at work or school, then this is a healthy erotic practice.
Just watch out for boots that use zippers instead of laces. Your partner might be less tolerant of your eccentric eroticism if you start bleeding all over her shoes.
Love,
Di
Dear Di,
Every Halloween I see all these adults dressed up in animal costumes, and I can’t help but want to get freaky with them. The idea of spending an entire evening wrapped up in a furry orgy just makes me wet. But how does one go about participating in or inviting people over for a night of purely “animalistic” pleasure?
-Furry freak fest
Dear FFF,
I think it’s great you want to explore your wild side! Many people fantasize about furry orgies, but some are clueless on how to get an exclusive invite to one of these events.
If you’re open to the idea of venturing out into the shadier parts of the Internet, you can start by surfing on Craigslist. To properly identify an ad for a full blown furry get together, there are a number of key words to look for. These include terms such as “Bear”, “Bedtime”, “Love-a-lot”, and “Come on down”. You can also venture around a number of online communities to meet like-minded people. Once you get involved in the community you can quickly learn who the regulars are in the world of animal fun, and you might even get an invite to one of these elite parties that are being hosted in a bedroom near you.
If you want to host a party yourself, you can post your own ad with some of the same hints and keywords. If a like-minded person who lives nearby finds it, they’re guaranteed to bring a stampeding herd of furry followers with them.
If you’d like to have an orgy with friends it’s best to talk to them about it first. It’s usually bad form to spring an orgy onto your party guests after you’ve invited them to a strictly vanilla get together.
Now if you’re looking to set the right mood for an upcoming event and you don’t know what kind of music to play, you can check out furrymusic.org as a start. Not only does this website act as a hub for original music produced by real-life furries, but it also showcases a variety of genres and sounds for you to pick from.
Anyway, happy party planning—I’ll be eagerly awaiting my invite.
Love,
Di
Sex position of the week: Oral train
This is a group sex position where an assortment of people lay on their sides, creating a circle. Each person pleasures the person in front of them orally, forming a human train of sexual pleasure. Full steaminess ahead!
