Dear Di,
I have a number of body piercings, but I was thinking of getting one on my penis. Will this affect my sex life?
—Prince Albert
Dear PA,
Piercings are a very personal preference. I could no more tell you if you prefer chocolate cake over french vanilla.
However, I can tell you that many people find that genital piercings actually enhance their sexual experiences, rather than detract from them. Of course, the amount of pleasure you experience depends on your partner and the kind of piercing you decide on, but the reality is that the penis is home to thousands of nerve endings, and a surefire way to stimulate them is through this kind of body modification.
But there are definitely some safety precautions to consider before getting your precious stick pierced.
Logistically speaking, this kind of piercing may be detrimental to how you urinate, ejaculate, or it may get in the way of putting on a condom. Another more gruesome worry would be the piercing not healing properly. For popular genital piercings like the Prince Albert, be sure to give your member four to six weeks to heal before you jump back into the sack. To ensure a smooth healing process, clean your piercing three to six times a day, preferably with a sea salt solution like H2Ocean.
Also, make sure that anyone giving you a blowjob knows full well what they’re getting into beforehand, just so they don’t swallow or choke on your new hardware.
Bottom line, always do your homework before getting a penis piercing, especially when your sex life could be on the line.
Love,
Di
Dear Di,
I’m a little lost when it comes to my girlfriend’s nipples. Do I suck them, lick them, flick them, or do I just stare at her breasts?
—Breast Ideas
Dear BI,
It’s understandable to have questions about nipple play, since it is not a typical conversation topic.
Each person will have different preferences, but let me give you some basic pointers.
The sensitivity of a lady’s mammary glands can vary. Some women can have very sensitive nipples, just like some people have ticklish feet. Some people like gentle nibbling, but you should remember that breast size is not an indicator of sensitivity.
Whatever you do, do not twist the nipples. They are not radio dials, and you are not trying to contact the last remaining survivors of a zombie apocalypse. Try starting with gentle nibbles, and gauge your partner’s reaction. Even better, ask her if she likes what you’re doing—talking to her might just make the experience even hotter. Communication is a vital part of a healthy sex life, and there’s no better place to start than right here.
Also, don’t be discouraged if your partner says she doesn’t like your unique brand of nipple play. It doesn’t mean you have been benched permanently. It just means she doesn’t like that specific technique, so ask her to guide you and learn what she likes. Luckily, in the bedroom, there’s always a “take two.”
Love,
Di
