Dear Di,

I am absolutely in love with my high school sweetheart. He’s going to a different university about seven hours away, so I won’t get to see him—or his penis—as often as I used to. We’re going to try the long-distance thing, and the part I’m really worried about is sex. How can I make sure we’re both still satisfied when we’re no longer spending much time wrapped around each other?

—Lonely Girl

 Dear LG,

Ah, long-distance loving. It can be a challenge to keep the sexy spark alive when you’re not living in the same city, but rest assured, it can be done. I’m sure you’re well aware of the wondrous invention that is Skype. One of the easiest ways to stay satisfied is to have a mutual masturbation session. Watching each other get naked on screen, teasing each other, and listening to your partner’s moans as you get closer and closer is just about the hottest thing you can do to close that distance between you. Depending on your comfort levels, you can even add some dirty talk. An easy way to start is by describing an especially tantalizing dream you’ve had of the two of you. You can also lighten the mood by playing strip poker or strip chess—there are plenty of online options that allow you to create a private room to play one-on-one.

Spontaneity is another key to a good sex life. A hot way to stay riled up is to send each other dirty texts when you’re in no position to do anything about it. Wet panties or a boxer tent while in class or out with friends can be unbelievably frustrating—and unbelievably exciting.

Send him a pair of your panties in the mail, tell him about your most recent purchase from Venus Envy (320 Lisgar St.), or write an explicit email stating exactly how you want him to pleasure you the next time you’re together.

Most of all, get ready for some mind-blowing sex when the two of you reunite. Keeping the sexual tension high while you’re apart makes for the most incredible fireworks (read: orgasms) when you’re together.

Love,
Di

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