Dear Ty

Dear Di,

I’ve been intimate with a few guys now and university has really opened my eyes to new experiences. But I have one question that I can’t get out of my mind: is it normal that one of my partners has a curved penis? The sex is great, but I’m always afraid I’ll break his love stick!

-Bent Billytastic

Dear BB,

If you get to experience the joys of a curved penis then you’re a lucky girl. A bent member can hit all the right places—especially a woman’s G-spot—and hurl you into cosmic orgasm space, leaving you longing for more of those rare curved delicacies.

Penises come in all sorts of shapes and sizes, and each one is beautiful in its own way. However, if your partner is in pain during sex then they could be suffering from what’s called Peyronie’s disease, which can make sex a very painful ordeal for him. If that’s the case, then your partner needs to get to a doctor ASAP!

Otherwise, curved penises are perfectly normal, fun, and can result in an extremely pleasurable experience.

A note to my male readers: Love your penis no matter what, but please don’t hesitate about seeing a doctor if you notice any drastic changes in your little friend’s colour or shape.

Love,

Di

Dear Di,

The other night I was lying in bed with my boyfriend of two years, and we were searching things on his phone when a suggested past search appeared in Google. The search result was “looking for local hookups”. It was hurtful and distressing to see. Does this mean my boyfriend is seriously considering cheating on me or is this just a thought he had while bored, as he explains it?

– Google Exposure

Dear GE,

Many people fantasize about sleeping with others, or imagine what it could be like. It could be something private they do to add another level of excitement to their sexual endeavours.

We’re only human, and these thoughts occasionally pop into our heads. However that doesn’t mean that we always act upon them or fall out of love with our significant other.

Unfortunately, many people correlate being sexually attracted to others as a sign that they are no longer fully in love with their partner. This is a load of BS!

According to Dr. Robert Sternberg’s triangular theory of love, every relationship follows a similar trajectory, where the first year is often defined by high levels of passion (this is where you can’t get your hands off each other). But this kind of passion drastically declines after the first year or two, and feelings of intimacy and commitment eventually come into play.

So I would at least give your boyfriend the benefit of the doubt and assume that he’s ready for this next stage in your relationship.

If you’re still concerned that your boyfriend isn’t being satisfied sexually anymore, I would recommend having a frank chat with him instead of flying off the handle.

Ask your partner why he’s having these thoughts; is it something you can change by spicing up your sex life? Or does he feel like he hasn’t fully explored his sexual freedom yet? In which case, you can also talk about introducing a third party to the bedroom, if that would be something you’re down to try.

This Google search result is probably just a thought he hasn’t acted upon, and I think the best thing you can do is have this conversation and move forward as a mature couple (and maybe ask him to clear his browsing history more often)!

Love,

Di


Sex position of the week: The Solo Woman

With school starting up and the stress of living away from home slowly sinking in, I’m sure there are a lot of us who could use a night of self-loving to release some of the built up stress. And what’s more relaxing then taking a nice long hot shower?!

While you lather yourself up, slowly run a removable shower head down your body. Spread your legs and gently move the shower head in circles. The rushing water and heat will leave you feeling euphoric! Enjoy your shower, ladies ;)   

Pro tip: Make sure the water isn’t too hot; you don’t want to burn your lovely lady lips! Ouch.