Dear Di: Rubber Lover

Offer to get tested with him, if this would make him feel more at ease. Get him a cake afterwards and offer to eat it off his body, if that’ll do the trick. A lot of communication and a little bit of foreplay can often go a long way.

Dishing with Di: Sexuality

Never fear, pseudo-doctor Di Daniels is here! My diagnosis? You’re completely normal. Breathe a sigh of relief and relax. Almost everyone experiences something that makes them question their sexuality, if even for a moment.

I’m asexual… and yes, I have sex

At the end of the day, dating as an ace is hard. A lot of people just don’t understand. But I find the best way to get past it is just take everything with a grain of salt and stay true to yourself. And lots of cake. That helps too.

Dear Di: Fuck the patriarchy

My boyfriend and I have tried watching porn together for the last few months, but everything seems sexist. I try to get into it, but every time I just keep thinking about racial and social inequalities, and were the actors paid enough, and was anyone exploited and, well, you get the point.

Dear Di: DILFs

The first thing you should do is talk to your DILF and figure out where he stands on whether he would expect you to meet his kids, interact with them, or take care of them at all. Chances are he’s probably not ready to introduce someone new to them, but it’s good to be on the same page.

Dear Di: Romping Roomies

If you brought someone else home for the night, would your roomie be jealous? Unclear boundaries are a sure-fire way to cause your sexy hook-up to descend into a drama-infested nightmare.