Dear Di

Dear Di is the Fulcrum foremost expert in sexual relations

Last week I matched with this person on a dating app and they are clearly out of my league but want to hook up. I am hesitant as this person is not in my bubble and there is a chance I contract COVID-19 from them. I was wondering if wearing masks and even sunglasses or goggles while we have sex will eliminate the risk of transmission?

Di Daniels, the Fulcrum’s longest standing employee, has written a number of Dear Di’s over the years. Here is a compilation honouring her best efforts.

Dear Di is the Fulcrum foremost expert in sexual relations

My current hookup has expressed interest in pegging but neither of us are committed enough to sink money into the necessary toys and splitting the cost with a hookup makes it feel too much like a relationship.

Dear Di's Blue Album

The person I am currently hooking up with has a very bad sex playlist. I am scared to tell them because they are emotionally fragile and seem to be really connected to their music. But nothing turns me off more than hearing Weezer’s “Undone – The Sweater Song” or Radiohead’s “My Iron Lung” while having sex. What should I tell them?

Di dressed in her witch costume

It’s time for the annual Halloween edition of Dear Di, where Di, the Fulcrum’s sex and relationship expert answers your Halloween sex questions. This year, she gives advice on what to do about a curious cat and answers if it’s normal to be turned on by sexy Halloween costumes.

Dear Di is the Fulcrum foremost expert in sexual relations

The announcement that Ottawa was heading back into Stage 2 was awful news. Mostly because it means that my partner and I can’t go out and do all the things we were planning this fall. We’re both pretty new to campus and the city, and don’t know much about what Ottawa has to offer. What are some fun, romantic things that we can do together safely?

Dear Di is the Fulcrum foremost expert in sexual relations

Because of roommates and family, my partner and I have been looking to take our bedroom activities to the car. I have never had sex outside of the bedroom before, so I have no clue what the dos and don’ts of car sex are. Can you share some tips on proper car sex etiquette.

Dear Di is the Fulcrum foremost expert in sexual relations

Dear Di, my landlord has offered my roommate and I a discount on rent in exchange for sexual favours. While this is a really strange and uncomfortable situation, we really enjoy the location and quality of our building and don’t want to leave our home. I am worried that by saying no or ignoring the offer, we could be evicted. What should we do?

Dear Di is the Fulcrum foremost expert in sexual relations

My partner is a germaphobe, they are grossed out by everything. This is horrible when it comes to intimacy as there are so many rules that I must respect to make them feel comfortable.

Dear Di is the Fulcrum foremost expert in sexual relations

I have been in a happy relationship throughout the summer. We spent plenty of time together, and always made plans for when we’d see each other next. Now that classes have started, we’ve both become busier people. Unfortunately, I am struggling with seeing my partner less often, wondering when we’re going to make plans, and simply, dealing with getting less attention. Do you have any advice to help me adjust to these changes?

Dear Di is the Fulcrum foremost expert in sexual relations

I’m in my second year of a STEM major at the University of Ottawa, and it feels like everyone else is getting laid but me. Do you have any tips to help me attract some cute engineering students my way?

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